Mainstream School – Weighing it Up…

There are many many arguments about how kids should be in school, school is the best place for kids, without school they will never get a job, without school they won’t develop social skills blah blah blah most of which is a load of crap!  This is my take on school, with school they have a high risk of being bullied if they are a little different, with school they are limited in their learning, with school they are following an indoctrinated path which the government sets out before them and we all know how the government care for our well being, with school imagination can be squashed, with school fear and anxiety may develop etc etc. I know I know, most kids do very well at school but for the minority that don’t, school is a pit of hell.

I have 3 school aged grandchildren all of whom have ASD, aspergers and anxiety disorders. Now school has been a very traumatic time for them but their mothers continued to send them until recently.  One of my granddaughters is in prep, which for non aussies is preschool, first term was ok, she went without too much trouble until the last week, other kids have been pushing her around, like literally pushing her and this is including boys. One of the girls takes her stuff and throws it away, and tells her she will get hurt if she dobs, she talks stuff that no little 5 year old should even KNOW let alone talk of. This term has been a nightmare to get her to go, her behavior at home has escalated to really intolerable levels, she has nightmares, is really difficult to get to sleep and sobs inconsolably when its time for drop off. Now this is not just being naughty and not wanting to go to school, this is her being scared of going, this has been addressed with the teachers but nothing gets done, so, my daughter pulled her out of school this week and will homeschool her.  School is NOT worth a childs anxiety, depression and in the end suicide. Children are killing themselves because of bullying and this is not going to happen in our family.

My eldest daughter has 2 ASD kids, one in year one and the other in year 4. Her eldest son in year 4 absolutely hates school and always has, he is in year 4 and still functioning at year 1, he doesn’t put up much fuss about going to school because he knows he has to go, but he is not learning anything, he doesnt have mates so to speak, he never gets invited anywhere and he would rather be home or at my house. He is mid range functioning, can do everything, but is a very slow learning and isn’t a fluent talker. He will learn at his own pace. And then there is his sister, Maddie, the most beautiful child, loving, kind, happy, peaceable child but she has ASD and Aspergers which is making maintstream life very difficult for her.  She is a loner at school, the teachers feel offended when she goes at sits with them and plays with their jewellry, they feel she oversteps boundaries, she sits alone at lunchtime, she needs extra help learning, too much time is needed to teach her anything, well HELLO you are the bloody teachers getting paid to teach her UGH!! I mean she is 6 for goodness sakes, she isn’t touchy feely but she likes conversation about things she finds interesting and for these horrors to say she is offensive because she touches their jewelry is really horrid!! I feel like throat punching that teacher but Jesus keeps telling me NO!!  So to do the right thing my daughter went up to have a meeting with the principal and the principal, who is a mum, was really rude to her also, so my daughter pulled them out then and their!

I guess the point of this post isn’t to berate teachers or the school system, even tho I have a lack of respect for both, (I had my own issues with school with our youngest son who I now homeschool), but the issue here is the kids.  We need to get out of the mainstream thought processes that have been hammered into our heads since we were born and believe the only way a child can get educated or a job, is through school, because it is really wrong!  We need to consider the kids, I mean really consider what is best for them, we need to acknowledge that anxiety is not just a condition for adults but also tiny little children, when we see something odd about our kids behavior we need to watch it not brush it off as bad behavior, not ALL kids are naughty, there could be an underlying issue.  These days life has become so fast paced and selfish, wanting more, gotta have the flash car and house, gotta have the fillet steak and not the mince, all these material possessions are taking away the family values where mum stays home with the kids, makes sure she is there when they leave for school and when they get home, mum is so overburdened that she can’t wait to get the kids back to school the next day, it’s a sad lifestyle we have gotten ourselves into and the collateral damage in all this is the kids.  I gave up a very successful career in real estate, making plenty of money, to stay home with our youngest, he also has anxiety issues and asd but is high functioning, the change in that child since I did that was incredible.  We are broke now in finances but so much richer in the areas that count. God is always with us and he provides for us so we lack no good thing, so not having a tonne of money is not an issue anymore, you learn to live WITHIN your means, but that’s a whole different post lol!

Guys, I just want to get some of you thinking about this, do not listen to family and friends who say the only way a child will have a future is with school, tell that to the parents who have already lost children to suicide because of school yard bullying. If you as a parent see an issue, do something about it, don’t ignore it and hope it will go away because in a lot of cases it won’t. Really listen and watch your kids because you will begin to see the signs if there is a problem. Always be there to listen to them, no amount of money is worth not being there for your kids.

Parenting is hard work these days and I understand a lot of single mums and dads out there have to work to put food on the table and I applaud you guys especially the mums, just don’t be too tired to listen to your kids and remember, always pray, pray without ceasing and God will help you!

Be Blessed and have a great day! X


Sad teen sitting on window

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